This is the story of some of the defining moments behind my relationship with Scott. If you’ve missed out on the earlier parts of the series, you can find them here:
Late March 2011 – October 2011.
After our non break-up break up, there was a long period where we didn’t talk as much. We went about our separate lives and Scott finished out his semester and graduated. We would text or talk every once in awhile, but nothing serious because not only was it not a great time to date, but we each had some doubts and some emotional conflicts. Looking back, it was obviously God’s plan for us to be apart during that time, because we just had a lot of internal things to each work on.
After Scott graduated, he hung around for maybe a day or so and we texted me and asked me if I would meet him somewhere to say goodbye. He was, after all, leaving for good and moving to Northern Virginia to take on a real job… and we were friends. It was too weird to try to say “goodbye” amongst all of our friends at the ministry we both attended, so it seemed like a smart idea to do it in private.
I drove to a park in Salem (off of 81 on Scott’s way back to Richmond) to meet him for a few minutes. I found him, we went on a walk and talked about nothing and everything all at once. Though my heart had been sad and guarded, seeing him just reminded me how much I enjoyed being around him and how his presence put me at ease, even when there was a little tension and weirdness between us.
He gave me a hug, and we left.
It felt like the end of the story, but the beginning of a new one?
That summer, I worked for an organization that put on week-long service projects for middle and high school students which meant that I was always traveling (mostly in Alabama and Arkansas with some Tennessee sprinkled in there). Our reconnection before the summer began led to messaging back-and-forth, and ultimately skyping anytime we could while I was doing office duties, etc. We did this thing which we nicknamed “silent skype” where we just stayed on skype while we were doing our respective things and sent messages back and forth. My team became fond of Scott and actually called him “Jim” because I wouldn’t talk about him in the beginning 😉 He almost became a little team mascot – haha.
[pictured: my team]
The summer was fun staying connecting and continuing to get to know one another while we were afar. We got so close to planning and executing another date when I returned from my summer job. Unfortunately, some things came up for Scott that led him into a serious doubt about our prospective relationship. One night during the summer (ahem, my birthday, ahem), he told me that it probably wasn’t a good idea to continue moving forward. Thus, our second non break-up break up commenced.
I kind of felt duped this time. A little angry. A lot of sad. I had lost hope of a relationship with Scott, to gain some hope again, and then lost it again. I left the summer on mission mostly confused. Why would God allow me to go through this again with this guy that I couldn’t seem to detach myself from?
Though the anger and sadness, I made my return to normal life entering my senior year boyfriendless and pursuing God. I had decided that at that point that I let Scott interfere with my life and upset my emotions a little too much. Therefore, I returned to school at Virginia Tech determined to just pursue God and take a break from thinking about boys for a length of time. I actually ended up declaring the fall semester of 2011 as the “semester of singleness” where I’d forget about boys and begin to just pursue the Lord.
Stay tuned for the next episode which will ultimately lead to our actual relationship beginning!