I’ve toyed around with sharing my love story with Scott for ages. Our story isn’t exactly the most romantic or the sweetest. It’s not full of cute moments of pursuing and wooing. It’s not one that you come to the end of and exclaim “awww!”. It’s more of a “praise God they finally figured it out” kind of story. We’re okay with that too, because we think that our story is full of redemption and grace which are two of the things that we think are most beautiful in the faith that we both cling to dearly. It would be like God to weave His perfect grace and redemption right into the foundation of our love story which God will use to build our family on top of. So, instead of a play by play of our story, I’m going to slowly share some of our “defining moments” with you. You know, the moments that changed the trajectory of our relationship/lives. This will culminate in where we are now.
I hope you enjoy the journey!
I found myself sitting at a table with 3 other people playing a card game that I had never heard of before. I really love card games, so I almost never turn down the opportunity to learn. We were retreating at a lake house before the start of the school year where the bunch of us staying in the house would eventually return to school for another year of studies. Everyone else in the house was otherwise occupied and it was just the four of us sitting around.
We partnered up to play. One of my best friends, Christie paired up with her boyfriend, RJ, and I was paired with a boy that I knew of from the university we all went to. He was super friendly and also talked a really big game about being competitive, so he seemed like a pretty decent card game partner.
I quickly took a liking to spades, it was very similar to a card game that my parents had taught me early on. The game is loosely based off of partner understanding and communication which was fun to figure out with someone that I didn’t know very well. We all talked and kind of bantered a little while we played. I really enjoyed the things that my partner had to say, and may have even offered up a flirtatious laugh in appreciation
All of the sudden, I looked at him again. Have you ever done that? Like, you never really considered a person as a potential romantic partner until all of the sudden you do? I had a moment like that at the kitchen table playing spades with my friends. I realized he had a really great smile, was very witty, charming and also very funny. I also just happened to know that he was also the worship leader at the ministry we all went to back at school and had an amazing voice. Oh, and he was definitely attractive, but I already knew that.
Part of my mind instantly switched from seeing this guy as a friend or acquaintance to instantly crushing on him, while another part of me knew that having a crush on this boy wasn’t even really an option for innumerable reasons in that season of life. I kind of shrugged in my mind and went on with life, not realizing that that spades game altered the entirety of my future.
A couple of days later, my partner, Scott, and I found ourselves also both volunteering to help move freshman into dorms in Blacksburg before school started. We had been acquaintances before the lake, but now, as Spades partners, we were friends. Naturally, we talked more and joked around before and after we spent time moving in freshman.
As the freshman moving extravaganza started to end, it also began to rain lightly around us. Even though there is something weirdly romantic about rain, I remember being annoyed that my hair wasn’t going to look good anymore and spoil any chances of this man thinking I am attractive. We all [about 10-12 of us] decided to seek refuge in the sacred warm place that is called Moe’s Southwest Grill. I’m pretty sure I ended up walking beside Scott almost the whole way there and listened to him ramble on about music which made me feel even more head over heels for this guy.
I remember walking away from that entire experience of spades and the moving extravaganza feeling defeated. I had no intentions of being attracted to this man, I certainly wasn’t looking for it. I was really not in a place for it, and neither was he, really. We were in equally weird places for different reasons.
I literally couldn’t help it, though. It was like magnetic, and I couldn’t explain it. I tried to help it, but I couldn’t. I left the whole experience knowing that I probably would always entertain in my mind what could have happened between Scott Anderson and I if only we were both in better places to think about dating. However, in the meantime, I knew I had to drop it and settle with being his friend.
…. to be continued.